In most of our society, it is a difficult to find someone who has not been in a relationship at least once. For some people, these relationships can be very loving and nurturing, while for others, the relationship can be extremely abusive. If you are in one of these relationships, then you should think about how to transform that relationship into a loving relationship with your child.
A relationship with your child will normally refer to how you were emotionally connected to him/her, i.e. parent, spouse, parent-in-law, etc. While your relationship with your child would also reflect how you feel about your relationship with the other parent, as a parent-child relationship, the way you relate to each other will determine how your relationship with the child develops. As a relationship, it is usually the love from your parent that starts off the relationship with the child and this relationship is continued through the childhood years.
Although many relationships may start off as a close bond between the two parents, as the relationship grows, that closeness could disappear leaving both parents feeling neglected or unwanted. For any student to have a fulfilling and loving relationship with his/her parent, both the parents must want the relationship to last. The relationship student needs to realize that his/her relationship with the other parent will also need to grow if the relationship with the parent is to have a fulfilling and loving quality. If either of the parents feel neglected or unwanted, then the relationship with the student may also suffer.
For any relationship to last, both parties need to want the relationship to last. The relationship student needs to talk with his/her parents and find out how their relationship is going. The conversation should be honest and clear. The relationship student should be given some space by the parents. If the relationship is left to grow without being given time to speak things over with the parents, it could end up being a failed relationship.
The relationship student may also talk to his/her friends about the failing relationship. Talking to friends and family is a great way to vent out any anger or frustration. Talking about a failed relationship can help the relationship student overcome feelings of failure and anger. One of the friends or family that the relationship student talks to may help the relationship student overcome the pain of the relationship failure. In many cases, talking to an objective third party can work out a resolution to a failing relationship.
When the student realizes that the parent/child relationship is failing, the student needs to make plans for the future. A mature student realizes that the relationship is not going to change unless the two parties are ready to work on the relationship. The student realizes that if the relationship does not change, then the parent/child relationship may fail. A mature student realizes that the parent/child relationship does not end with just one episode. It takes two to make a relationship work. Forcing the student to resolve problems that do not exist will only create more problems for the student.
If a relationship student finds that the parent/child relationship is failing, they may feel hopeless. However, if the student sees that they can make changes to the relationship and the parent/child relationship, the student can feel much better about the situation. If the student has a plan for the future, they may be able to keep the failing relationship from failing completely. If the student can see that their relationship with their parents/clan/friends is not going to change their lives, then they may feel much better about the situation.
If a student finds that their parent/child relationship is failing, they need to do everything in their power to save the relationship. The only way to save a relationship is to give it your all. If the student does not give their all, then the relationship may end for good. If the student is willing to work on the relationship, then the relationship may very well last. A student who wants to save a relationship is one who wants to make things work.